Give yourself the gift of detachment

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[quote align=”center” color=”#4bac58″] How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours. -Wayne Dyer[/quote]

No one reaction, single handedly ambushes moods, mindsets and relationships than that of taking things too personally.

If someone offends or irritates you with their words or actions, forgive them. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Odds are they may not even intended to cause harm.

Intention makes all the difference when trying to decide your reaction. Think about the saying, “life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it”. So really, you are the only one have the power to make or break your day.

But keep in mind that a reaction doesn’t have to be instant. With everything becoming instant in today’s world, instant messaging, instant noodles, people have confused the idea of “reaction” with “instant reaction”. Take some time to evaluate the situation and analyze your potential options.

Perhaps they may behave that way with everyone, so there’s no need to take their bad behavior upon yourself. Or they didn’t really mean what they said.

When you take everything personally, all the negative energy and harm is done to yourself. And in many cases, for no reason at all.

It is important to be able to differentiate between someone trying to walk over your toes and someone just being ignorantly clueless. Stand up for yourself if you feel you must, but just take a moment to think about whether or not it is called for.

If you are like me, you will probably go about your day getting touchy or feeling crappy about at least 10 different things which will extend through the day as you continue to think about them. This is bad. The first step is to realize what you are doing. The second, is to relax and work towards being carefree and not taking everything so personally.

Remember, that nothing in this world is permanent. Undoubtedly, you’ve changed over the years. People change. So do situations, places and everything else you can think of. Anything that irritates, angers or upsets you today may not really matter in a few days, weeks, months. Keep this perspective in mind before you get yourself worked up.

Don’t be so serious about everything. Take life lightly. Learn to laugh at yourself and at other people’s naivety or childish behaviour. You don’t have to be responsible for the wellbeing of anyone other than yourself.

Try to incorporate some of the positive changes in your attitude and actions mentioned in this article. You will find that life is much more enjoyable that way. Read more about channeling your anger in a past post.

Let us know how it goes! Share any strategies or personal experiences you have with taking things and coping with taking them too personally.