[quote align=”center” color=”#4bac58″] Just because you are angry, it does not give you the right to be cruel.[/quote]
Whether you’ve been hurt just once or dozens of times in the past, it is likely that you are a little colder, a lot shrewder. Betrayal and disappointments have become your biggest fears. You are more cautious. And rightly so.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for learning from your mistakes. Protecting ourselves from hurt or pain is a very natural physiological reaction. But if we hang on to our fears for too long, they tend to become irrational.
Though you may no longer need to shut yourself off emotionally anymore once you have healed, by the time this happens, it has probably become a habit. It is now ingrained in your mind that opening yourself up to love means opening yourself up to pain and disappointment. So you continue living in your shell, away from any chance of being let down. This is not healthy. Nor is it really beneficial once this behaviour has served its purpose.
Also, remember that having been hurt in the past doesn’t give you a right to hurt others and undermine people’s feelings and reactions. You will only find yourself alone and cold. So allow yourself to open up your heart again. Learn from your past mistakes, but don’t shut off the world either. Be brave and explore the bright colours of life and love again!